Friday, March 12, 2010

Goodness in Death

Some days I cling tightly to Christ, and I feel His presence so strongly.  Some days it is more difficult to rely completely on Him, to trust Him.  I am learning so much about my Savior lately.  Now, as I wait for my appointment to see the specialist I do find my thoughts wandering.  I am 1 out of billions of people.  Because what I have is so rare, there have not been very many people before me who have been treated for it.  Every possible scenario or outcome has run through my head.  I'm going to be very transparent here.  I've envisioned going to the doctor, having them run tests and being astounded because the avm has shrunk.  I've imagined dying on the table during surgery, and I've even imagined somehow getting this thing fixed, getting pregnant and making history by becoming the first woman with a uterine avm to have a full term vaginal birth with twins.  (I know.  I know.  This may be a little far-fetched, but I've seen God work miracles).  Some of my imaginary scenarios thrill me, and some of them scare me to death.  But you know what?  God is really doing a work in my heart.  He truly is because I am finding that even when I contemplate the worst case scenarios, He brings the TRUTH to my mind. He puts the memory in my mind of all the promises He's made to me and kept already.  Realistically, I should have died during my miscarriage or even during my D&C.  For some reason He has seen fit to preserve my life thus far.  "And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good..." (Romans 8:28).  I was blessed that He revealed to me the "goodness" that came from my miscarriage.  It is bittersweet.  Losing the baby was horrible, but finding out that I may be alive because of it - well, it is overwhelming.  


We are so afraid of death.  Some of us are afraid of cancer, car accidents, a heart attack, plane crashes, choking to death, suffocation, or some other fatal disease or illness.  Yes, there are many many ways to die, too many to count.  We could contemplate them all day long.  Some of us are comforted by "odds."  What I mean by that is we might comfort ourselves by saying, "Well, that won't happen to me. Plane crashes are so rare" or, "I'm in perfect health.  The doctor says my heart sounds and looks great," or, "Cancer doesn't run in my family.  Everyone in my family has lived to be in their 90s."  Then there are others of us who are waiting, expecting something horrible around every corner.  We're just waiting for that freak accident to take us, or we see a doctor regularly (I'm not talking just regular appropriate checkups) just hoping to catch a problem before it catches us, or maybe we just think about dying everyday, wondering when it is coming.


There is no true comfort in "odds."  We don't know if we are going to be in the minority or the majority.  There is no way of knowing if we are the person who is going to live to be 100 or the person who is hit by a car while crossing the street.  Please understand.  I am not saying this for the sake of being morbid.  My point is that no one knows, no matter how young or old, healthy or sick, when our last day is.


Today is the first day that I think I really get this concept.  There is nothing that I or even the greatest physician in the world can do to preserve my own life.  I can exercise and try to eat right, and those things are great.  We should take care of and honor our bodies as God has commanded us to (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), but nothing we do can save us.  I want to merge these two concepts together: God is always always good to His children, no matter what our circumstances are, and God is the one who gives us life and chooses when it is time to take it away.


Why then should I be afraid of death?  If God is good all the time, then isn't He also good to me in my death? None of us can run away from dying.  In fact our birth and death has been predetermined.  "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you" (Jeremiah 1:5).  So if my time to die is today, tomorrow or 50 years from now it is good.  Whenever it is, it will be the perfect time because God is always good.


"And again,
“I will put my trust in him.”
And again,
“Behold, I and the children God has given me.”
  
Since therefore the children share in flesh and blood, he himself likewise partook of the same things, that through death he might destroy the one who has the power of death, that is, the devil, and deliver all those who through fear of death were subject to lifelong slavery.  For surely it is not angels that he helps, but he helps the offspring of Abraham.  Therefore he had to be made like his brothers in every respect, so that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in the service of God, to make propitiation for the sins of the people.  For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted."  (Hebrews 2:13-18)





Tuesday, March 9, 2010



"Brethren, I know no man dies willingly, - no man living can have an habitual inclination to close cheerfully with this dissolution, -- but by looking upon it as a means to come to the enjoyment of Christ.  I tell you, your bodies are better to you than all the world, than all your goods, or any thing else.  But Christ is better to the soul than any thing: and therefore, unless it be for the enjoyment of Christ, let men pretend what they will, there is no man willing to part with the body, -- to be dissolved.  Grow in that desire of coming to Christ, and you will conquer the unwillingness of death." 


-- John Owen, The Works of John Owen, Vol. IX, p. 349

Sunday, March 7, 2010

A Poem

This has been a favorite of mine for as long as I can remember.  My Grandmother had it on her refrigerator when I was growing up.  For obvious reasons, I've reflected on it quite a bit recently:


I may never see tomorrow
There's no written guarantee
And things that happened yesterday
Belong to history.


I cannot predict the future
I cannot change the past
I have just the present moment
I must treat it as my last.


I must use the moment wisely
For it soon will pass away
And be lost to me forever
As part of yesterday.


I must excercise compassion
Help the fallen to their feet
Be a friend unto the friendless
Make an emply life complete.


The unkind things I do today
May never be undone.
Any friendships that I fail to win
May nevermore be won.

I may not have another chance

On bended knee to pray,
And I thank God with humble heart
For giving me this day.

Unknown Author